SIL is coming to spend the weekend this weekend.... (see previous; I have been trying to stop this for months... at least the pool is closed now) I said it was fine but I had 1 request... that if she comes and brings her hellraiser of a dog; that she not stay over night... if she wants to stay over night (which she does so she can drink) I asked she not bring the dog and leave it w/ her 3 roommates...as I had not forgiven the fact he ate a ton of stuff last time he came over.
DH went off and said I needed to get over it and I was pushing everyone away (no one thinks about the fact that I'm the one that has to clean up what he destroys and I am the one w/o the plants; pool chemicals, furniture, figurines etc... that he ate and I"M the one who has to use MY money to replace it all) I thought it was a simple request that she not spend the night if she couldn't leave the dog at home....
Am I just being too anal about it? I calculated in the 3 days he spent with us last time he did $300 or more in damages.... and all I got replaced was a $12 plant. No one replaced the pool nozzle for the vacuum hose or the mosquito net for the gazebo that has a hole so big in it I could walk through it... no one replaced my hand carved bear from my honeymoon that no longer has fingers no one replaced the cups that were on the table that i woke up to all over the floor in pieces; no one replaced the 2nd plant and pot that was eaten that was on my dresser that I woke up to in pieces on top of me in my bed. No one offered to have my grandparents coffee table refinished after he chewed on the leg....
See a pattern here?

I've been asked not to bring my dog places and thats up to them if i'm to be a guest in their home i'll follow their rules if not I wont go. At least she's lucky she gets to come over, My sil hinted once she wanted to move in, hahaha dh made it clear thats never going to happen.

OMG moving in?!?! I would flip!
yeah that is the way I look at it; its our house don't bring him... we already have 2 dogs we don't need anymore; my dogs know not to run in my flower beds and not to chew on things... hers doesn't even know how to sit; he just runs around like he is insane. We've been asked not to bring our dogs places too so we either don't go there or we don't bring the dogs when we do.... I don't understand why she can't leave him at home or not sleep over... she can visit as long as the dog doesn't go unsupervised and eat my things... I don't think it was too much to ask for.

Well I calmed down and thought about it a lot; I have a friend w/ a very young son also stopping by and she said she would speak up if the dog is being crazy since she has a child to worry about but I also decided if I see he ate anything.... SIL isn't leaving until I have a check in hand to replace it :o) No worries... problem solved.

I dont think you are being too anal. Unfortuantly its your DH s house too so his wishes have to be considered.   Isnt there anyway you can cage the dog or tie it up outside? I cant imagine the damage the dog does to her roommates.

Well I tried caging him last time and he howled for hours... nonstop and he can't be outside b/c we just planted grass and he'll destroy it (another reason why he probably shouldn't come)
But that's why I decided that dh wants the dog there and so does SIL so my compromise it; he eats it... she bought it.

I would let him howl. maybe it would irritate your husband and sister in law just anough that the dog doesnt visit again. Go buy some earplugs from the car parts store or the gun shop and use them.

This post was last modified: 10-11-2007 01:54 PM by jeanine.

I would not let the dog come, only because she probably wont pay you for any damage done and hubby wont make her because it would cause too much drama.

LOL letting him howl and be miserable would be a good way to prove a point... i think we do have a crate still from when our dogs were puppies.

Wish me luck tonight is the night... dh talked to her last night; she didn't mention bringing the devildog so who knows.....
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that she leaves him at home... but if not my friend has already agreed to speak up and tell her to get her dog under control so I won't look like the bad guy the whole time.
I might need to stop by the store and get some alcohol for myself though... who knows; if he acts too bad; I might just toss him in the fire pit LOL :o) (I love animals too much; could never do that)