I met my fiance' thirteen years ago when we both worked at a small restaurant here in Denver.  We were both attatched, but became friends.  Seven years ago on a visit, he told me that he and his wife had split.  We went out that weekend and have been together ever since.
I really love his Father and sister.
His Mother is a different story.  She is a fanatical born again, who lives in TEXAS, and who is the biggest phony I have EVER met.
This past month we announced our engagement and had a party here in Denver.  I told the out of town folks that we would send pictures.  My FM(other)IL got all bent out of shape because my Mother decided to surprise me and drive to Denver to attend the party from Nevada.
My FMIL decided to come to town for two weeks.  The last day of the trip before she was to leave was Father's Day.  She was at her Father's house (here in town) for the day, so I planned a party at my house for my FF(ather)IL and fiance' at my house.
Did I mention that my FS(ister)IL does not speak to my FMIL?  She doesn't even call her Mom.
So, my FMIL couldn't stand the fact that her daughter and son would be at my house that she had to crash the party.  My FSIL left to go home so she would not have to deal with her own Mother (how sad).  After my FMIL got the message and left, she proceded to send me a bunch of nasty text messages, and then  a ton of nasty emails.
I had heard about her rath, but I had never seen it.
She was upset because I did not want my fiance's Dad to have a Father's Day party with his ex-wife and current husband to be in attendance.
I have never been so offended by anything in my life as the texts and emails.  She even went so far as to attack my Mother and say that she didn't seem like the kind of woman who would jump into a car and drive to Denver for an engagement party (the language, spelling, and grammar were really bad BTW).
I couldn't stand the emails anymore, so I appealed to her my throwing the "Christian" card at her.  I told her that being a good Christian woman that she is, I hope she would find it in her heart to forgive me.
The next email was as if Heaven had opened up and she had seen the light.  She actually responded to me by stating that she considers herself very blessed that God gave her a heart that is big enough to forgive me.  
Hmmm... I haven't spoken to her since.  I have changed her ring tone to SILENT, I have blocked her email address form being able to get through at home and work.  I have turned off my home phone.  
I now know why her daughter doesn't speak with her.  
Oh BTW... she calls me ever day, leaving a message that begins with her saying, "Hi, this is Mom...".  BARF.  I would jump off of a building if she were my Mom.  





  

Wow, she IS a nutter!  You are wise to block her!  Seriously, she sounds like she is not only ignorant, but has some mental instabilities.  I will use my stock advice: stay as far from her as you can. Be polite in social situations, but avoid her at all costs otherwise! Realize that she seriously is probably mentally unstable, so try to ignore any emails or txt that make it through the blockade. Realize that she won't be around forever, and just take the high road and ignore her lunacy as best you can.

Thank you very much for the advice.  I haven't spoken to her at all and my frustration level has lowered.  
I found out yesterday that my fiance' hasn't spoken to her either.  I did not mean for this to cause problems with he and his mom.  He told me that he needs to let her know that she cannot attake me.  That was nice!  
Thanks again!

You really hit the nail on the head with your reply above about your frustration level being lower without speaking to her. Toxic people poison everyone around them with their negativity! We are better off to stay away!

Just remember that YOU did not cause anything with he and his Mom...she did.

This sounds familiar to my situation...his sister is currently saying she has no parents.

My bf is so pissed after the fight that caused his sister to say that, it was the same one his Mom started on me.

First I felt guilty, told him I didn't want to be the cause of it. He told me to stop right there to never blame myself where she is concerned and that he is removing himself from her right now because of her behavior and lies after wards, not because of me.

So we both need to remember when dealing with these master manipulators that it is not our fault!

Thank you for your kind words.  Good luck Dear!  Keep your chin up.

As I read your original post I was so scared for you.  There are many bf/dh's around here who are blind to his mother's wickedness.  After reading further I see that he is grounded.  Good for you.

Keep ignoring her.  Hopefully she will eventually get the picture, esp if even her own daughter isn't speaking to her.  Of course, with nut jobs like her she may never be able to turn the microscope on herself.

Best of luck...