HELP!!!!
On top of all the other interesting things that happened this weekend that I won’t get into now b/c this is more important!
IL’s came by this weekend and mentioned they told GMIL they weren’t doing Christmas w/ them this year b/c they were coming to our house for breakfast instead?!?!?!
I asked dh if he invited his family over for Christmas breakfast and he said no.
Last year dh and I decided we wanted to do breakfast ALONE at our house and invite other friends who were young and also had hectic days ahead of them; we thought it was a nice tradition to have for ourselves. This year we were gonna have just the 2 of us.
Now I don’t know what to do; Dh promised we would be back home ALONE by 2:00 but how would it be possible to have his family over for breakfast, then go to my parents, then go meet back up w/ his family and open presents then go to GMIL (she is b*+ching already about us coming) then to his other GM.
Its too much and its not fair to my family not only to spend the whole day w/ his family but then to host breakfast for them too??? Especially SINCE WE DIDN'T INVITE THEM TO BEGIN WITH!

If you didn't invite them then tell them its not proper for them to invite themselves! How rude! I'd put an end to this one now or who knows what else they will invite themselves too.

I just don't know how to stop it; and w/ dh being sick recentlt; he isn't supposed to be under ANY stress so he is trying to ignore everything and I try not to bother him w/ stuff....
I don't know what to do.... I never actually get a relaxing Christmas; its always a 3 ring circus

I would tell them that due to DH being ill and such that you will be spending christmas alone, and if they care about him they should understand that. If they don't like it too bad, its your family. Thats so rude to just invite themselves!

My IL's tried to tell us how we should do our christmas, that they saw both families so we should to. You have to set traditions that work for you.

Are they going to invite themselves next christmas too?

What does your DH think about it?

It sucks too b/c if you look at previous posts our Christmas goes like this usually....
we get up and make breakfast MIL calls 3 or 4 times; then we go to my parents for an hour or so and during that time MIL calls and hangs up calls and hangs up... so on and so forth then we go to MILs; then we go to GMIL w/ MIL then we go to aunts uncles and cousins houses w/ MIL and GMIL then we go to other GMIL w/ MIL...then its 11pm and time to go home and crash; all the while my poor pets are at home alone unable to play w/ their Christmas toys b/c we aren't there to supervise. Its so sad and stressful

I had to read that a few times to figure it out...thats exactly what my christmas will never be like!

Personally I would tell them that your christmas was already planned out before they invited themselves to your house...or you could just not anwser the door when they show lol

I would tell them you ran out of food and if they could have it at someone else's house and just not show, then go to your family's house and if they call dont answer the phone at the end of the day tell them your family surprised you with an outting you couldnt refuse and you lost time in all the excitement.

Be with the people you want to be with regardless of what day it is. Be with those who make you happy and dont feel obligated to be with those you dont want to. Its your life and I know there are sacrifices you must make when you are married but DH should understand if you are that uncomfortable and they are that disrespectful there is no need for you to go. If they start talking crap afterwards make sure they know you and DH dont want to hear it and if they call or write nasty emails dont open them just delete. Tell them you are tired of their games and you will not be apart of it if they want to call nicely that is more than fine.

My inlaws cant even be civil in person so we are forced just never to be around them.  Sad I know but neccessary for our sanity!

This post was last modified: 12-10-2007 01:41 PM by scorptones.

Its just so stupid to have to go to not only that many houses w/ the same group of people all day long to watch people open presents; now they are invading on the 1 time of the day where we can enjoy ourselves and open stockings w/ the doggies and exchange gifts with eachother.... its just not fair!
My dh, since he hasn't been feeling well, told me yesterday he just isn't into Christmas this year (its usually his favorite holiday). I've been trying to cheer him up even though I think Christmas has gone to the pocketbooks and people have lost the true meaning

Oh same thing here, with my MIL she has to have the actaul day and the next just isn't good enough - well to bad. Shouldn't matter when, its about family time - not presents or who wins you for the day

i hate inlaws