DH's birthday passed and as expected two of the siblings we have not ben getting along with for the passed 6 months did not even bother sending an email. They truly are heartless and since they do not want to try with us or even care we have no need to care or try with them. I can say with all honesty i'm glad they didnt call. That would have confused our situation. Now we know without a doubt where we stand! Well this starts off the new year and since DH's birthday was the first of the year we dont have to worry about the rest. They no longer matter to us as they've only tried to hurt us and make us feel like we're no part of the family anyhow. The worst part is even my siblings called him lol! Great huh?

same thing happened for me, i the first out of all the kids and in law kids for a bday and i didnt get a msg or fone call on the day, pils visited a week later, still didnt hear from sil. cant wait to not buy her n e thing.
dumb thing is we bought her bf a present in december and mine bday is in jan.
for hubbys bday, they hardly cared and 2 weeks after asked us over for dinner to celebrate his bday.
i hope one of em will wake up at some point and realise its just not worth it...not worth being an arse hole all my life and loosing family over it. i really hope one day (in a long time ) this happens for them.

I dont want my siblings in law in our lives I tried for the first year, then let it bother me for another 6 months they are negative individuals and only make our lives worst. Like I said i'm glad they didnt call. Beside the siblings that didnt call DH has never gotten along with him his whole life, they are only step siblings. But DH tried to be family with them and so did I. Oh well it really truly is their loss and our gain. I no longer have to worry about trying to make amends with them as I know it is never possible and I can finally be at ease with it. I tortured myself over it for a year and a half and i'm sure they either got pleasure or couldnt care less. I know who I am too bad they never cared to find out! But I also know I love DH and he deserves better than them also. I always wanted to feel indifferent towards them and now I finally can. They never tried to be family, and so to me they are just strangers. Free to continue on with their lives and no longer affect mine. I know there will never be a time down the road where things will change and I'm ok with that. Our goals and aspirations are far too high to deal with heartless individuals who enjoy the torment of others. I have cried too much, given too much, spent too much time and for what? nothing Yesterday was it. They never bother to call for my birthday or christmas but calling DH for his would have meant they cared and wanted things to be better.
I have written several posts on their nasty behaviors toward us, asking what I should do, why they could be so cruel and how to truly let go. Now I know it took alittle time and patience to finally let go of hope, undeserving hope I had for them. The days leading to his birthday there was that last bit of hope left that they would give a fraction of the effort we have given them and theirs though I knew deep inside it could never be true.

This post was last modified: 03-03-2008 01:48 AM by scorptones.

I have came to the same conclusion and once you are ok with it and your husband supports you you will be fine. My A**hole mother in law always sends my stepkids gifts for birthday, xmas and never sends gifts for my kids....My husband has allowed this...like I told him, she is not hurting me or my kids, she is hurting him because he is embarassed at how stupid she is!!!!

That's disgusting, what a total gift this woman sounds like. And they wonder why we hate them.