Hey peoples! Found this on my late night web surf, came from Dr. Phil web site but thought I'd share it with you all...


1. I want to be "accepted" in your family.
  
2. I want to be "respected" in your family.
  
3. I want to be "loved" by your family.
  
4. I want to be "included" in your family.
  
5. I want to get along with you.
  
6. I want you (mil / fil) to keep your "negative" comments to yourself.
  
7. I want you to be a "guest" in our home and respect our "boundaries".
  
8. I want you to accept that your son is a "grown man" and he can make decisions without you.
  
9. I did not marry your son to take him away from you, I married him to give you a daughter, (me).  
     You may not like me, but your son loves me and you need to "accept" that.
  
10. I want you to be a part of "our" family.
  
11. I dont want any "favortism" shown between our children or your other grandchildren.
  
12. I want you to understand that it is "our" turn to raise "our" children the way "we" see fit.
  
13. I want you to understand that your "parenting days" ended when "we" got married, BUT your  
       "grand-parenting" days will begin when we have our children.
  
14. I want you to understand that when you feel that you do not want me to be a part of "your" family, you are only "excluding yourself" from "our" family.
  
Now tell us what you want, so we can all try to understand each other so we can all be included in each others lives.



Tickled me to read that. Im past the point of wanting IL's to love me though. I'd like to add a few wishes and wants but was wondering what other people would add first?

number 14 pretty much sums it up. I will have to hang it over my door.

Number 12 is ME! To share something completely personal, my daughter was recently raped. She was staying with her Dad and he allowed her to go to a friend's house. Well, it worked out that she was given a drink with that "date rape drug" and was taken advantage of. She was smart when she came-to in the tub (the guy thought he could wash off his dna, which he can't with with just a shower), she called the police to get help. Well, my ex-MIL decided to talk about my daughter's clothing and how she dresses. I was able to put that woman in her place. My daughter is Abercrombie and Fitch all the way; regardless of anything, NO ONE deserves to be raped. It doesn't matter what parent she was with or where she was, she didn't deserve that; BOTTOM LINE! This MIL is a complete moron. Especially where we as parents feel like we allowed our daughter to be in a place where she was unsafe.

Oh Tori, I am so sorry that happened to your daughter. And how dare your ex-MIL even imply that she asked for it???? I hope you kicked that woman's ass GOOD.

#7 is me!

that applies to my siblings in law for sure, but i have given up on trying. I tried saying things like that to them but oh well.
I'm so sorry about your daughter. No one deserves that.

OMG I just read that. Tori I am so sorry! :o( You are right NO ONE Deserves something like that to happen! I hope he goes to jail for a long time. It will be a long road for your daughter; I'm sure you will be there to support her the whole way.
Hugs to you and your daughter :o(