You are absolutely right. DH says the same thing to just ignore her. And well that certianly works for me!

Ack, I don't think these crazy MILs *ever* change. Why can't people just be nice to each other? Why wouldn't a mother want her son to be happy? Why wouldn't a husband want to make sure his wife is happy? Am I such an idealist to think these things should be obvious? This frustrates me so much. I'm sorry you are going through this.

This post was last modified: 04-09-2008 10:19 PM by thisissofrustrating2.

well, as you guys know I am no stranger to the email problems, still trying to get my head around how to fix that, ive come upon a combination of ignoring them and a quick response, such as 'thanks a lot' and leaving it at that.  The pictures I can also relate to, my MIL took our wedding pictures CD without even asking me and sent a bunch of copies of it to all her friends, even though my family paid for all the pix to be done.  she also conned me into giving her the photographers number and approached her and got her to do enlarged pix of our wedding for her house all without my knowledge or permission.  i know this is slightly off the point of the facebook, but i am thinking it's the same sort of idea.  do you guys agree that is out of order?  unfortunately there is not much we can do, and even if we kick up about it the in-law has still won cos he/she is getting a reaction......and still gets to keep the pix.  Very frustrating!!

What kills me about the picture thing, is my inlaws want pics to put up of us so that when friends and family come over, they can pretend we're all one big happy family and that they are saintly people who support us.  It's all merely to boost their own standing in their social circle.  Personally, I don't care about pics around their house. The way I look at it, it is punishment for my MIL, since she clearly can't stand me. If she has to keep looking at my face every day, then she probably is pretty punished by it, you know? I say, let them have the pics up...their own suffering will be reward enough for you.

Caiti I am right there w/ ya. My MIL wanted a wedding picture that was of a "romantic nature" I wasn't happy; she called my photographer and tried to order herself a portrait before I had one myself; my mom didn't even have one yet (and still doesn't) She took my album and showed all of her friends and left it over at other people's houses to look at! she even wanted pictures of me and dh kissing; i didn't understand that....
GMIL was just as bad she gave me a list of pictures she wanted and all of them had her in them; some didn't even have dh or me in them (I laughed it was like "here I am at my grandson's wedding; oh here I am again, and oh look I am dancing in this one" but yet where are the bride and groom?)
Everytime dh and I take a picture of us somewhere she wants a copy; its ridiculous; we could be in our PJ's and she'll say "I want a copy!"
but there are only like 2 of SIL in the house that are recent and she LIVES there! But there are a ton of dh everywhere.

with wedding pics, thats ur bday and xmas gifts to them for the next couple years hehe. i gave mil some small prints early on and framed one of hubby with his parents.
with facebook, both mothers didnt mind. bils gf sent me the pics.
it was just sil who is the childs step mother and mil and fil that had a go at me. and they werent really caring about the pics it was really a chance to have a go at me.

Well, if you have the parent's permission to post the pics, then the stepmother should complain to her hubby, not you!  Silly woman, sounds like she just wants some excuse to have a go at you.

Hehe, thanks Ladybug, I'm glad I am not the only one with the wedding pic problems, its impossible to please the evil MIL sometimes, but they can do whatever they want......

Its such a stupid thing; I hate seeing the same wedding pic and 10 houses of dh's family; I don't understand it.... it takes away the specialness when everyone had a gazillion copies of them and they are everywhere; they should take what they are given and be happy.
I've since hidden my album so no one can get to it.... dh found it once but then I hid it again; sad thing to have to do but at least they are all mine now :o)