A little comment I managed to slip in went a little something like this: SIL - "You only start drama with my mom" (which is hysterical, considering MIL has nothing to do with me).....me - "That's very interesting. Doesn't there need to be CONTACT for any kind of drama to be started?" *akward silence*  "I don't know what you mean"   (Of course she didn't, the ignorant biotch!)

Remember: Unfortunately, you cannot have a battle of wits with an unarmed person! *cackle*

This post was last modified: 11-13-2007 02:36 PM by mainegirl.

I can't take credit for this, nor was it said to her, but its still a good one

For our wedding I ordered chair sashes for FH and my chairs. They say "Mr. ____" "Mrs. ______"

MIL was grilling me about them (because she doesnt see the point, and you know even though I have a job its all her sons money) and asked what my plans were for them after the wedding. I didn't answer her.

I was telling a friend who also has MIL issues and she told me that I should have said "I was planning on taking them on our honeymoon and tying your son to the bed with them"

Yea we thought to that maybe some of it was because I will be Mrs. ____...I'm going to have so much fun with the sashes, take it off the chair and wear it around the reception ..not that she'll be there to see it!

I hate when they make $$ comments to us, I know (from comments they've made) that they are like 50,000 in debt! They spend money like they are rich - and they dont make that much more than we do!

When she says, well this is the way I did it with my kids when they were young... "I'm sure you did MIL, I'll bet it was nice being able to make your own parenting decisions, tell me what that feels like"

This is perfect!!!  I will use this for sure!

Before I cut her off. I started looking at her sideways like she was speaking a foreign language and then laughing to myself. The last time I saw her I gave her a puzzled look and said loud enough to be heard by others (she tries to insult me quietly) 'That was a pretty rude thing to say, why would you say such a thing to me like that?' And then I smirked and gave her one of my famous go f*** yourself eyerolls and smiles.

On the bully site I posted elsewhere on the site I found what I will use:

"I am sorry you choose to believe/think/feel/say that."

I love this because nothing annoys me more than a fauxpology where someone implies you have misunderstood things and they are sorry about it (when in reality that's not true). Not that it would be that way in this case but in HER MIND it is like that so I think that will annoy her.

Also this outright says it's her choice to do those things.

As well this is not furthering an argument or getting into what is true or not (thereby validating that anything she says is accurate) rather it shuts down whatever she is saying.

So for example:
MIL: You have never liked us.
Me: I am sorry you choose to think that about me, MIL."

What can she say to that? That statement just gives no plausibility to her argument.

The site says to just repeat it over and over and then, when their arguments don't engage you or work bullies will then lay on the guilt to which you respond (with a smirk):

"You're not trying to make me feel guilty, are you?"

I can just imagine how insane it will drive her to have me respond to anything she does with the same statements over and over.

It makes me all warm inside.