I have a medling SIL, she is always looking to cause problems between DH and I. My DH listens to her too much. She talks too much and I worry and overreact too much. So its all of our problem. How do I keep her at bay? I mean I cant have a life it feels sometimes cause whatever we do as a couple she needs to know about and all she needs to do is ask and she will find out from him. My only option seems is to keep her as far away as possible. Is there another way out? This almost caused us to break up the first year of our daughters life in 2002. I had to make DH kick her out of living in our basement..things went pretty crappy after that of course, rumors fly etc etc..things then began to calm down until this year we just bought a new house and have a brand new baby girl again..all of a sudden she is making her presence felt everyday..I feel she is up to something again........how do I ease my mind..right now I am at home with the kids while DH is playing in his band and u know who is attending the party...

Doesn't this girl have anything else better to do with her time? Geesh! Well, this is a little tough since your hubby listens to her.  The only method seems to be to stay away from her and that way she will have less things to use against you. Tell your hubby that you appreciate that he's close to his sister, but that you would really like for him to keep certain things just between the two of you (tell him exactly what kinds of subjects you would prefer he not discuss with her).  Other than that, steer clear of her!

Yeah stay away from the wench.....

Yep stay away...Allthough this is what I do and now all of sudden its *MY* fault dh never see's his family.

You tell her to mind her own.
And you get over the fact that they think its your fault. Welcome to reality that everything he does/doesn't do something they don't like it will be your fault.

You know its not and thats all that matters

yes i've caught on to that..that everything is my fault..the more i think about it , the more farther away i wish to be ..when i really get to thinking about our whole situation i start daydreaming on how to leave, wehre to go, where to work etc...sad it is...i know...

LOL, I think I would be blamed for the sky falling if it happens. Believe me they will come up with some off the wall things that are your fault. I really should have kept a notebook of them because some of them were hysterical!