So I haven't seen my In Laws since they totally insulted me back in Dec. Long story short this weekend is, MIL, DH's and SIL's DS's bday as well as mother's day. We do not have enough seating or the room for everyone here without ripping apart my entire house apart. We do not have a dining room set, we have our dining room set up as an office.  SIL has a dining room table enough chairs etc. and said she would host it. She then emails us and tells us we have to bring our own food, drinks and condiments to my so called husbands birthday party. I have no problem bringing things but from experience with my SIL what I bring to the party will be the only thing to eat. She even told us to bring our own ketchup! She is lactose intolerant and I go way out of my way to buy lactose free products that I will never use but she can't buy a gdamn bottle of ketchup for the bugers that we are bringing? I was irritated enough with that...Cut to tonight, she calls hubby at 8:15pm and tells him that Saturday at her house is no longer good for her and we have to have it. She did the same thing to me last year on Christmas Eve and then had the nerve not to show up or call. We kept calling her thinking she drove into a ditch or something. She called the next day to say she accidently fell asleep, on Christmas? Yeahhh okayyy!

So now my MIL is so mad she says she's not coming and my husband makes plans for her to come here on Tuesday. I assumed that meant they were all coming Tuesday. Then he calls his father and the next thing I know he says okay Dad see you on Saturday. Saturday?? I told him ten times Sat was not good for me. I had other things planned tomorrow and if sister wants to cancel last minute but being burned by her before that I'll have it when its good for *ME*. Well hubby wasn't listening apparently and calls his father who always sticks up for his sister even when she pulls bs like this. No one can understand why Saturday isn't good for me but its okay for the sister to cancel last minute. So hubby calls and tells his father okay for Saturday. Soooo the sister can't do it on Saturday at her house by my house is okay? WTF? We just had a huge brawl about it and I swear I'm going to end up divorced because I just cannot deal or stand his family any longer. The mere mention of them makes me crazy. Hubby says he'll do all the cleaning and preperation meanwhile we don't even have enough chairs for everyone and he is working until midnight on Fri so when this cleaning is going to happen is beyond me. I know I'll end up stuck as always. I have no space or chairs for them which SIL is well aware of. What the hell should I do have them sit on the floor? OMG I'm furious. So of course I am yet again the bad one, hubbys birthday which is today is ruined all because of me.

I cannot stand dealing with them and really want to make my sister in law accountable for her actions. When she said she couldn't do it I wish it were ME on the phone instead of hubby. I would have said, okay when would you like to have it then? Instead I will have to rip my house apart for hours to childproof it, man is she ever inconsiderate.

At this point I'd rather hang out with my MIL instead of SIL and father in law which is a very scary statement lol.

This post was last modified: 05-09-2008 02:20 AM by Katalyst.

On top of all is this, FIL & SIL are talking sh*t behind my back as well and how she's pissed because she already made a cake. I have to rip apart my house, create seating out of thin, create a dining area and shop to feed people that I absolutely cannot stand. MY DH is working until 1am in the very least so I can't count on him to help me until tomorrow. My poor poor sister in law made a cake....Can we all have an awwwwwww for her?  

I told my DH that she acts like a spoiled little brat and until he calls her on it, it will continue. No one in the family wants to disturb the her of course and she's been running the show for so long, I think she's pissed that everyone isn't just rolling over for her as usual. I even told DH that I'd rather hang out with my MIL then deal with SIL and FIL. How sad is that? lol

I think I may have to bite my tongue off tomorrow.

Why isn't Sat good for you? Do you have something else to do? If so, go ahead and do it! Let your hubby worry about cleaning the house and getting stuff together by himself. I suspect after that, he won't ignore you again in the future when you say a certain date isn't good for you!

do what you had planned to do on saturday, in fact do more, take yourself out to the salon or even just coffee w/ friends and  let dh clean for n entertain his family...and leave some flowers and cake for MIL for mothers day w/ note :sorry i couldnt be here- lets get together n do something some time :)
that worked for me one yr, similar situation

I say let them sit on the floor. They already know you dont have the seating or the room. If the house isnt cleaned spotless oh well.  You guys have your own lives and even your DH knew you had things to do and if he said he would take care of the details then let him.  He offered you didnt ask and you already told him your Saturday was taken.