It was only something that crossed my mind, after initially tearing myself aprt trying to figure out what 'I' had done 'wrong' !

She would often ring to tell me about a purchase she had made, what was being done to her villa etc...

I am one for buying unusual handcrafted/made jewellrey and would always have something new that would catch her eye, and then 'Hey presto', she would have a new necklace or bracelet and would play around with and fiddle with them to attract my attention.

I wouldn't say anything.

She always rings us to tell us that she went over to Spain (she moved to Portugal 12 years ago, but she and her hubby are English) to do a spot of shopping. I just remarked at how cheap it is to shop there, so what a good idea!

Especially when my sister travels over to stay with friends, I mention how she always finds bargains there as it is so cheap!

It certainly does make a lot of sense!

Makes you feel a little better once you realise this, doesn't it!

And slightly empowered! 'She' has the problem, she is jealous of what you have, and she wants the same. Makes them seem quite silly too!

Yeah it does make them seem silly! :o)

I don't think my MIL has a jealousy issue with me. I think it's a general distain for me. Where this comes from, I still don't know. The only thing I do know is that she told my husband not to marry me because I was not what she pictured. Whatever that means.  

LOL Erin: My husband too is a recovering mama's boy.

That was such an awful thing for her to say! My god, what an absolute cow!

Maybe she would like to clone herself and have her son marry her clone!?

After the past 2 days; I'm wondering if not only jealousy but sheer
Psychotic-ness is her problem..... If only I had the time for the details but basically she has asked like 500 questions about everything she can think of and has her hand out for $$ while dh and I are struggling to catch our bills up (keep in mind she is not hurting for money in the slightest) Dh has realized she has pushed me to the point of back handing her and he is trying to stand up for me and get her straight; she is certified crazy! I told dh I'm going to end up telling her to go to you know where and mind her own d@mn business if she keeps on her current path too much longer!

Hmmm! The whole twenty questions game, I have been made to feel as if my MIL is going over a check list, just to make sure I am doing what I am supposed to be, whatever that may mean?

My MIL likes to make out she has money, but really they are not as comfortable as we are financially, and I know this grates on her nerves!

I think she is bored beyond belief and doesn't want to admit that she doesn't know what to do with herself.

So your MIL actually has mental health problems? I am not sure if this would make it easier to deal with the situation or not?

I see that my own MIL is just plain nasty.


(Oddly enough, as I typed this I answered the phone to her but passed it automatically over to my BF. I was polite but didn't prompt a conversation. I didn't even give her a chance to say anything, other than hello...)

I know it's not exactly late ( it's coming on for 10 p.m here in the UK, but she used to ring earlier, around about 8p.m ish ) and I'd make a point of not answering the phone until later in the evening as I knew she wouldn't call then.

She's trying her hardest. But she'll get nowhere.....FAST!

I don't think she has actual mental health problems.... I think its hereditary; GMIL is the same way. DH was catching onto the 20 questions game over the weekend so he started playing along with it; I'm not sure how I kept a straight face but I managed to hold in my laughter