Since I can't stand my MIL and her conniving, idiotic, disapproving ways....I figured I'd just talk about yet another small but lame thing I can't stand about the woman.

OK, I realize that in some families, this may happen on occassion, but you must admit that MUCH of the time it is an arrogance thing:

My MIL gave her daughter the same name as her.  She only changed the girl's middle name.  And, true to form, the girl became evil just like her mother.

Hahaha....
That's funny....!!! You made my night..
My FMIL had the nerve to try to convince my FH and his ex to name their child after her... MIL's name is NOT a pretty name..... not AT ALL.. but she pushed them to name the child after her.. She lost -- her name didn't make the cut.. but, I understand what you are saying...I LMAO thinking that she really believed and wanted to have a grandchild with her terrible name...

My MIL didn't have a GRANDCHILD with her name, she named her own DAUGHTER after herself.  For some people, that may be charming, but for her, it is another display of her arrogance and the thinking that everything about her is so perfect...when she is far from perfect!

HAHAHA! That is too funny. I'm telling you sil's and mil's together are toxic! I like the way you deal with it - humor! If you can't join them, then let's just laugh at them! My mil and sil (by marriage only) are best friends and go out drinking together, shopping together and even live together. I secretly think they have some love affair! :) It helps me to laugh about them! By the way - what is your mil's name? Just curious!

Amen Sista Mainegirl!

I agree with you that your MIL naming her child after herself is complete arrogance.... I am 100% with you on that
I also think that my MIL insisting her son name his child after you is arrogant as well...
These woman.... Sheeze! If we can't laugh at them, I think we'd cry.
Laughter is the best medicine...

I have to think about this one. My ex's family was very much like this. His mom had an unusual name... it was passed down to her daughter, and her son gave it to his daughter. So there are now three generations with this very unusual name.

His mom was the "one upper" of personal misery. She considered herself a martyr in a christian sense, having spent her life with an abusive alcoholic. She was an abusive codependant... having spent so many years trying to control her husbands drinking problem at the sacrifice of her own happiness (her choice!!!), she was bitter, resentful, and felt entitled. She became a narcissist. And it was sad because I could see glimpses of her at times- before she made the decision to commit herself and her children to an abusive marriage, and I think she would of been a much better person otherwise.

Anyhow, all her SONS felt they somehow owed her for having her lived stayed with their dad. None of them grasped that they had been innocent children who she had allowed to be beaten senseless by a mean old drunk. They would all sit around and say "poor mom" and she would do it, too!!! "Poor me!".

The story that stands out in my mind was when my 26 year old sil miscarried. She was heartbroken. My MIL said to her "You've brought it all back for me!!! You've brought back the baby I lost, the one I lost in the fire when I was trying to carry my momma out of the house!!!" She started sobbing and went on and on about her loss- 28 years ago!!! The woman had four kids and three grandchildren, and instead of comforting her dil, she was sobbing about a miscarriage she had 28 years before, and the kicker was this- she had never even known she was pregnant. She was checked out for smoke inhalation and found out then she was miscarrying.

Anyhow, this is something to definitely think about. Passing on names being narcissistic.

Whats sad though is I kinda miss her. Hee, hee. Even though she was totally self absorbed, she did LOVE her children. I do not get the impression my husbands mother loves him. and that breaks my heart because he was adopted. Its like he has been given up by two mothers.

I'd list my MIL and SIL's name, but on the off chance they ever find this site, it would be more ammo if they could "prove" that the person writing these posts is the evil woman who stole away their possession (my husband).  Needless to say, the name isn't terribly pretty and is somewhat old-fashioned, but the point is, this woman claims she wanted to keep a representation of the name in the family, however there are several aunts, cousins, grandmothers on both sides, etc. with this name....so it's in no danger of dissappearing from the family!  She didn't need to name her daughter after herself to keep the name going, she only did it to form a mini-me whom she could mould into her own likeness (or, dislikeness as I like to think of it)!

This post was last modified: 07-24-2008 01:09 PM by mainegirl.

its so weird to have the same name in an immediate family. i wouldnt think to use my name as a first name- maybe a 2nd, but a first just sounds confusing.

You are allowed to name your kid the 5 letter word ?