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Hi, I'm new and I don't know if there is a spot here or not for letters or things we'd like to say to our MILs. Is there? If not could we please have one maybe??? I'm in practice here, lol. I'm gonna either confront my mil face to face or in a letter and I'd like to know what all here think and maybe get some pointers .....thanks, Cammy


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05-31-2006 09:41 PM
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RE: Letters We'd Like To Write

What I wouldn't give to be able to tell my MIL what I think of her.  Out of respect for my husband, I try and keep the discord to a minimum.  My MIL lives very far away, so that helps.  You should start your own thread with the letter....As for advice, I say make sure you take into account how this will affect you DH.  While it will feel very good at the moment, you don't want to create a problem in your relationship.


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06-01-2006 10:10 AM
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Point taken. He knows how I feel though as he has witnessed how I'm treated several times and has spoken up on occaision to the evil one. LOL


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06-01-2006 02:58 PM
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Your best bet would be to start a new thread. And then everyone can post there.  I suppose it would be best in "I cant believe she" section!


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06-02-2006 10:52 AM
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I wrote my MIL a letter last summer and sent it.  This is what I said.

Dear XXXXX.
I would like to apolagize to you for anything I have done to hurt you.
Your son and I love each other very much and it would mean a lot to us and our children to have a  close relationship with you.
Would you please give us a chance to start over fresh?
BLAH BLAH BLAH.

Her response. She ignored it.


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06-22-2006 01:31 PM
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I was going to send my FMIL some flowers and a letter to say how sorry I was for everything and that I would like to start over. That was until she started even more drama with the ex, though. I haven't even bothered talking to her lately. I really did want to send her flowers and Sean knows that.


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07-01-2006 03:27 PM
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Jeannie don't count on me to give you reasons not to send the letter. Sounds like she deserves every word and more.  Doesn't your husband want to move back to Maine?  Poor, poor you.


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07-03-2006 07:08 PM
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I too would be furious if my DH didn't say anything after a comment like that.  I woudn't give up on the marriage just yet.  Your MIL would probably be leaping for joy.  That's what she has been working towards for the last 20 years.  Be happy, that should make her miserable.  


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07-03-2006 08:11 PM
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I would if that is the way you feel. I sent my MIL a letter, had alot of feelings inside and alot of things I never got to tell her. So she pissed me off oneday and I sent it to her. She didn't like what it said at all.
I got alot of emails back from her, she was so pissed at me but hell I could have cared less.


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07-04-2006 12:03 AM
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Hello everyone

I am new here.

I don't like my mother in law.
but i messed my life by writing a letter for 5 pages putting her straight on the ground. Also the husband of hers. All greek relations so as you can see very involved in our lives.

I am married 3 years now. And after 3 years of acting, trying, making my own identity so different just to please them, I felt enough was enough.

and now getting a new house. i just want a new start and i blew it to their face to bugger off giving examples that would would they feel themselves if they had a new life to begin as a couple?

I said to them:

'what you don't want others to do to you, you do not do to others'

and i explained that their bossiness is really exhosting me!

Yubbi. job done

and now i feel guilty

Husband? was upset, i had to go to apologise. I was stupid crying my eyes off to apologise her. but now she doesn't want to see me.

Shall i feel happy?

Zuskak


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10-12-2006 05:07 AM
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