DH mentioned to me (b/c he thought it was weird too) that MIL has been planning a party at our house.... for HER friends!
She does a "couples card night" w/ her friends and now is trying to have it at OUR HOUSE.... We don't know their friends; I have met them maybe twice....
How rude is it to do that; she just wants to show off our house to her friends. I told DH that she has issues and WE invite people over to our house; not her invite whoever she wants....
I just don't understand her; where does she get off that she has any rights to our house to plan anything????
I haven't decided what to say yet.... I don't know how to bring it up and politely say "you can't do that"
Any ideas?

get hubby to do that one. men can get out of things like that easily without sounding bitchy or rude.

I think I got it straight; will give details when i know more :o)

She denied it; saying she "wanted to but knew better than to plan things at our house w/o our involvement" but I know that is crap.... so I said I thought people who invited people over to someone else's house were rude so I was glad to know she wasn't doing that.... :o) a little jab on my part knowing she was doing it.
then they went out to dinner w/ me and dh last night for his b'day even though they had already eaten; they sat there and just watched us eat.... it was really weird; I wasn't a happy camper; dh said it was the worst birthday he'd ever had.
I felt bad for him; I told him we would celebrate his birthday this weekend and do what he wanted to do this time!

It sounds like a control issue, she wants to control her household as well as yours and is slowly figuring out its not going to happen and is probally pissed about it. Glad you got your point across, am sorry about your husbands birthday it sucks when they manage to ruin things for their own kids. Been there done that, hope you have a nice time this weekend without them!

She does like to control anything and everything she can get her hands on; its been a long 2 years on ripping things out of her mits! Phone accounts, credit cards, checking accounts, dh car.... all with her name on there.... I think I finally got all that fixed.... now just have to work on the day to day stuff and holidays....
Its so draining; I just felt so bad for dh; of all days for all of that to happen; it was his birthday and after working all day, then he had chest pains and went to the ER (acid reflux) and then got all that drama.
I'm tired of her being all up in our business all the time.
They were even trying to get him to spend Valentine's Day w/ them at their house (no mention of me) I got pissed.
Oh i don't think i mentioned that when the bill came; they paid for dh.... not me; they said mine was separate "b/c it wasn't my birthday" WTF? So basically dh had to pay anyway. My mom thought that was absolutley absurd when I told her!

It IS absurd! How childish can you get? Man oh man I wonder sometimes if they just sit at home plotting and planning all this inane crap or does it come naturally? At least your husband gets to see how rude and petty they are, my MIL's colors are starting to show but usually she saves all of her nasty comments for me when everyone else is out of earshot.

Make sure you spend YOUR birthday the hell away from them.

Oh trust me I always spend my birthday alone; she usually wants to get out of my way when my birthday comes around.... I'm not too friendly to anyone (long story, my GM died a few days before my birthday so I am a complete battle-axe every year now)
SIL at dinner said to my dh "remember this when my birthday comes around" I thought to myself "oh I won't forget; you cheap b@st@rds" LOL
My dh sees that they are insane; FIL is probably the most normal of the bunch, I don't think he quite understood why they were at dinner w/ us last night since they had already eaten; its odd to sit at a restaurant w/ no food watching other people eat?
It made me uncomfortable and dh was grouchy especially when MIL told the waitress it was his birthday and the staff came out clapping and singing; he made me eat the free dessert (which was tasty:o) )
I'll really have to make it up to him this weekend!

So..... over the weekend MIL showed up WITH their friends whom we don't know.... Nice.
I was pretty mad.
MIL took them all over our house, my bedroom and all included. and apparently, according to MIL, my guest room is really "a nursery"
Um I don't have any kids and no kids are on the way.
I made a point of that. The friends knew the names of all of our pets, even ones who aren't alive anymore.... They stayed late and played "couples cards" which ended up being a card game us girls would play in middle school on sleep overs, definitley not something I know any adults to play unless they have middle school kids of their own.
I told them I didn't want to play and proceeded to ignore all of them and watch TV :o)
I don't want to be a rude hostess but I was in a "rude situation"
I felt that is poor ettiquette to invite strangers over to some one elses house to go through it like it was an open house and it was for sale or something....
I just don't understand the noseiness....
The friends were like "thanks for having us over" "Um I didn't invite you over because I DON'T KNOW YOU"

wow, thats heaps rude. my mil wouldnt ever do that cos i would make a giant mess and she would have to clean it.