OMG I don't even know where to begin. I'll stick to the topic I started for now... will post more in the future, I'm sure of it ;)

I'm 6 months pregnant, and so far dealing with my MIL has been tolerable. We live near her, but I make it a point to have a life outide  of my DH's family.

This is his first child (I have one from a previous relationship) and his parents first grandchild. With my first daughter, due to beliefs (or lack there of) we chose not to baptise, but rather to educate my daughter in religion (not one, but all) so that one day she may make her own decission, and we will stand behind her 100%. We talked about it before we got pregnant, and we (DH and I) were on the same page when it came to not baptising our child. We will send both childern to a catholic school (as they don't have 'religion' class anymore, but a 'life studies' class that teaches about the religions of the world). It works for us. My MIL and I had a conversation about this back when I was only 2 months pregnant, and I made it very clear where we stood on the issue. She tried to tell me that I should baptise for the simple fact that it will allow them to marry in a catholic church. My argument to that is if my child grows up and meets someone of the catholic denomination and loves that person, they will not be deterred to go through the courses required to enter into that religion. To me, baptism is about so much more than 'getting married in a church'.

I don't want to start a discussion about religion, only that I feel that it is ultimatly my DH's and my choice. We made this child, no one forced us. Anyways, 4 months later I find out that she's been talking about this with her family, and openly saying "There will be a baptism for this child, XXXXX(me) just doesn't know it yet". It blows my mind that someone actually has these thoughts.

My question to all of you is..... do I face the dragon now and bring it up in passing again to make my point clearer? or do I sit through the eye of the storm and wait for it to be brought up? This is not the only issue on the table right now, it's just the most bothersome to me. I am only 6 months and already stressed. I can't imagine what it will be like after February. Someone please confirm my sanity...... what do I do?!?!?

This post was last modified: 11-10-2007 03:24 PM by AlainaC.

I would confront her on it. Just be like " we do not plan to now, or ever, bapist OUR child. There isnt anything you or anyone else can do about this issue. Do I make myself clear?"

I would confront her now... your child is to be brought up the way you and dh believe and no one should baptise your child behind your back, I think its great you are going to teach your child about all religions! But no matter what upbringing your child has; it should be your decision and no one elses.

I would make it clear to her now, its your choice as the parent. She has no right.

My FH and I have decided that we are going to raise our children with no reglion allowing them to figure out what they believe in. I know my MIL won't like this.

I would go one step further and have a chat with MIL's priest so that the priest is aware of your beliefs and how you wish to raise your child.  No self-respecting priest will baptise a baby against the parents' wishes.  

See this for what it is....a threat to you as parents.  MIL is already telling you, in no uncertain terms, that SHE knows what's best for YOUR child and she doesn't give a rat's fanny about your opinion.  This will only get worse from here if you let her even think she's getting away with it.

you need to to nip this one in the butt. she as no right and she knows it. she can act tough all she wants and act like she has a say. another MIL control freak moment. make sure that you let her know who is the mother of that baby!

You definitely need to put this witch in her place.  This is only the beginning of her efforts to undermine you as a parent.  This is not a time to be nice or diplomatic.  You tell her plainly that if she attempts to do ANYTHING behind your back that not only will she not see your child that you will file criminal charges against her for kidnapping and battery.

That should get her attention.  And it will show her that you are boss and that she can not tell you what to do.  Being nice with a woman like that only makes her think she has permission to walk all over you.  Don't even give her a chance to get her evil foot in the door.