...I was here writing to you all, but it doesn't mean that I am not here, i'm just in another corner, evil-ing my mother in law, and cirsing my father in law, slapping the sister in law, and football my brother in law.

They are same old same old, so i haven't said much lately.

I don't see them now, and i don't even care about them.
My husband and i have been ups and downs but to be honest best advice i would give to you, if you still don't have kids, just change your routine, have TIME TO YOURSELF without your husband. Relax where he is not there, and non of his family either! Then when you see him, pretend things are fine, and you'll feel fine too.

The more you tell a man about his problem family, the more the problem will grow. that's my lesson I learnt since December!

What is your latest? would like to know..?

x

Your so right. The only thing is I realy don't know how to relax! My hubby tells me that all the time while he is trying to get the knots out of my shoulders:) Yes I have bumps on the sides of my head-one on each side where all the stress goes. I try my best not to talk to my husband about his mom but he still sees it in me and he understands. He will come in the apartment saying I can't wait till were out of here. So I know every time when they have up set him. Hubby even tells me not to worry that he will deal with his mom and dad. I feel so bad for him because my parents use to say to me "We can't tell you what to do any more because you have your own life" My dad died a few years ago and my mom had a stroke and she doesn't talk well any more. I only wish I could talk to them now. (I wish I'd spent more time with them.) If I relax when the MIL and the FIL are around then I'm in for it. Y can't we all just get along?

i totally agree. i have put my point across but its not hubbys fault his family are the way they are. i am just gonna try and avoid more conflict and rejoin the family in a different role later on...maybe 2 months, maybe a year.
i dont want hubby to be affected by it, they have upset him enough.

i find that whenever I mention to hubby that his mother hasn't been in touch in a long time, mysteriously I get a token phone call or email that is very short, often even curt, and clearly done simply so she can say she did it so she can look like she's "trying".  

I would rather have no contact at all than have her do it only because I said something to hubby who, after months go by, didn't seem to notice all on his own.  Then when I mention she is absolutely no support system for me, he says "But she's been emailing and calling more this year...".  Oh, sure, when you "remind" her to! He shouldn't need to "remind" her that I am 12,000 miles away from him right now raising 2 children by myself and might need some human contact once in a while!

i dont want mil to talk to me at all...shes just a bitch...i dont really wanna hear from n e of them. but i do wish they would ring hubby so it wasnt just hubby ringing. it would upset me if i was the only one making the effort in my fam

i sed last night lets see how long it takes for them to contact us.
hubby rang mil three days ago and i think we could be waiting a long time...she has 2 other children to think about.