We're trying to not let it effect us or our enjoyment of this time, but, in all honesty, it DOES kind of put a damper on the whole thing. FH loves his family, albeit, he does not "like" them very much right now. He is seeing them for what they are and THAT is hard and heartbreaking... He adores his father, who is caught in the middle of all of this... and in this family, you can't get to FIL without getting MIL too... Which, by the way, I find HYPOCRYTICAL... She wants to and EXPECTS to see my FH w/o me (even though we are a team/family)... but you HAVE to get her if you want to spend time with FIL... She expects FIL to be 100% honest with her and have no secrets, BUT, she expects my FH to let her and SILs badmouth/bash me and him NOT say a word to me about what they say. And when he does (b/c he and I are a team), the whole family makes him pay by threatening to take away support, they don't talk to him, and call him disrespectful.... They are crazy.

We are still trying to figure out wedding plans. We can't afford much and we will be paying for everything on our own... so, not having the 10 extra people there to feed, would be nice (okay, that is catty)...
Really, we don't want anyone there who is not supportive. And, they are not supportive of our relationship.... FH has decided to take the "let it alone" approach for now to see what happens... Sadly, not one family member has contacted him.... -not true, MIL contacted him for a selfish reason; she needed advice related to his job-... But, none of the others have even called to say hello.. They are punishing him.. I find it all very sad..

Grrrr...... Poor FH... he gets "punished" for falling in love and for being happy....

Yes! You are so lucky to have a supportive fiance! Keep praising him for being supportive and tell him how much it means to you that he is working to try to make the situation better! About the MIL, I do feel bad... it is so hard... I had a similar situation, but MIL's guilt won over my fiance; he really started to believe her lies about me, despite that fact that he didn't have any objective evidence to believe the things she said. I was devastated. I'm just so glad to hear that your fiance is seeing your (plural!) side...

God I feel your pain! My dh and I dated when I was 16 and when I would call his house his mom would make fun of my voice and do an immitation then hand the phone to her son (who was 18!). She always hated me since before we were married. On the positive side your fh does love you and has shown that he will always be there for you and protect you from anyone, including his mom. You're getting a good man that won't let this come between you. Just hang in there and keep venting! We're all here for you.