I have heard this from friends of mine. Birth control doesn't get rid of or always control them. It depends from case to case.

Your MIL said what Good greif, the sheer nerve!

These women just take the buiscuit, well the whole packet of biscuits!

This post was last modified: 08-18-2008 01:12 PM by Sianey.

Birth control (hormone therapy) is only the first option because its the least invasive.  Other than hormonal therapy, there's laprascopy, ethanol sclerotherapy, or aspiration. They ARE painful. :-(

I think we may be in the opposite position. I think MIL will be UPSET if we have another baby!  She's jealous of my daughter (because she's from my 1st marriage, and god forbid she came first so she might take some shine away from "her grandson" - strangely, she hardly calls or shows "her grandson" she even thinks about him very often).  She was P!$$e@ when I got pregnant, because she knew it meant my (now) hubby would move here from Australia to be with us (DUH, we'd been planning a wedding for 2 years previous...but the biotch was hoping she could somehow talk him out of it I think).

So, if we had another one, she'd realize that my hubby would be unlikely to visit soon...because I've made it clear I ABSOLUTELY refuse to fly 29 hours with small children. Firstly, I'm afraid of flying so it's a real issue for me, and secondly, I won't put other passengers (or myself) through the agony of having restless little ones on a long flight like that.  Personally, I don't mind if hubby flies by himself to go visit his family, but he doesn't want to fly without us...so, it would seem he won't be flying home anytime soon unless he gives in and flies home alone.  My MIL is smart enough to realize I won't give in and fly there with a baby, so she'll be less than thrilled to hear any good news on another pregnancy (and we DO want another one in another year or so).

You know I have only 1 child and it was gods will. Sure I would have loved having more children but I can't naturally have any. I know what you mean. We are in a good place. We have one child who we love more than anything and is spoiled rotten. In one instant we can say "Hey let's go out of town" and not have to worry about the kids. Kuddos to parents who have tons of kids though!
But I know exactly where you're coming from. ALL of my family and his always tell me to hurry up and have another one. Like I have a choice!!! I can't have anymore people!! And if I could I am so used to my small family that I don't think I would have it any other way. I totally understand given the horrible birthing experience you went thru. Do what makes you happy! :)

Me= tons of kids. :-P My first two were the result of advanced reproductive technology. My second set were a surprise.

My mil is like mainegirl's. She asked point blank if I was on birth control only 6 weeks post partum, and then made several "observations" about how we couldn't afford more children.

Basically, if someones nosing and offering opinions about whats between YOU and the person you are having sex with, they are in the wrong. Its no ones business but yours!!!

True that!

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I have these too.... the kind with the painful cramps that BC do not help. The ones that hurt like hell when they get to be golfball size!!! It scares me that I will have infertility problems once we actually want to conceive... Actually, we got off BC a few months ago and are kind of "unofficially" trying... rather, letting nature take it's course. I am not a spring chicken (in 30s) and need to consider starting this kid thing soon ...

I bet my MIL would SH*T if she knew this, being that we are not married yet, but, it all boils down to (for all of us), it really is none of their business. We are each living our lives the best we can given our current situations; and we are all adults capable of making our own life decisions. I hate it that they feel that their "2 cents" should mean something. I'm sorry that you all are dealing with nosey, interfering MILs. It makes me sad for you.... and I am sure I will be blogging about my FMIL's reaction if/when FH and I do actually conceive.... Hang in there ladies!

Erin, have you been checked for PCOS????  Endometrisosis?

I would be so excited for you and your bf to have a baby!

I have heard this from friends of mine. Birth control doesn't get rid of or always control them. It depends from case to case.

Your MIL said what Good greif, the sheer nerve!

These women just take the buiscuit, well the whole packet of biscuits!

Yeah she is a handful; I'm still cutting loose on poor dh on how nosey she is and intrusive.... I'm not letting up; I am going to beat it into dh's head. Whenever I do think about trying to have kids just to see if its possible..... I just sit back and think "....And this is their NURSERY" and the biological clock stops ticking.... If she is this bad now; I can only imagine how she would be when/if kids come into the picture....<sigh>

But whether or not you have children should have nothing to do with your mil! Don't let her steal the opportunity to build a family from you. Its none of her business, and try to not let her opinions affect you- yes or no.