08-08-2008, 06:57 PM
Hi! My husband is 27 years old and has wanted to be a police officer since he was a kid. He just spent the last 7 years working in real estate sales and hated every minute of it. He made some money, saved some money, and bought some nice things, including his house. His father owned the company he worked for, [His parents are divorced] and recently sold the company. My husband sees this as the perfect opportunity to enter the police academy and have the career he has always wanted. I fully support my husband in whatever he wants to do. On one hand I would be happy if he continued working in sales because he is good at it, he makes plenty of money, we have nice things, no debt, and we don't have to worry about our financial situation. On the other hand, I don't feel that he should spend the rest of his life unhappy, for money. I fully support and encourage my husband to have the career in law enforcement he has always wanted. We know that our lives will change, but are willing to deal with it.
His mother (and the rest of his family) on the other hand [who have tons of money] thinks that he should work the job that is going to earn him the most money. And that it is "a step backwards" to take a job making less money. His step father thinks that all law enforcement is corrupt (possibly because he can't seem to follow a single law). Maybe its because I'm kind of new at this whole adult, married life thing, but shouldn't a grown man who supports himself be able to choose where he works without his parent's influence? He did what his family wanted him to do when he was 20 by working in real estate. I feel like I was the only one that heard him complain and saw how miserable he was for those 7 years and thats why I just want him to do what is going to make him happy, especially since he will be doing it for a good portion of his life. If his family is uncomfortable with him doing a more dangerous job I certainly understand that (I'm not happy about it either). But its not my life, its his. Is there any way for me to get this point across to these people? Or should I just butt out?
This has been going on for a few weeks now and he is now reconsidering his decision to enter law enforcement because he wants his family to be happy. And he is asking me what I think he should do. I say do what is going to make yourself happy, and don't try to please me, your family, and yourself. Because its not possible. Any advice or suggestions???
His mother (and the rest of his family) on the other hand [who have tons of money] thinks that he should work the job that is going to earn him the most money. And that it is "a step backwards" to take a job making less money. His step father thinks that all law enforcement is corrupt (possibly because he can't seem to follow a single law). Maybe its because I'm kind of new at this whole adult, married life thing, but shouldn't a grown man who supports himself be able to choose where he works without his parent's influence? He did what his family wanted him to do when he was 20 by working in real estate. I feel like I was the only one that heard him complain and saw how miserable he was for those 7 years and thats why I just want him to do what is going to make him happy, especially since he will be doing it for a good portion of his life. If his family is uncomfortable with him doing a more dangerous job I certainly understand that (I'm not happy about it either). But its not my life, its his. Is there any way for me to get this point across to these people? Or should I just butt out?
This has been going on for a few weeks now and he is now reconsidering his decision to enter law enforcement because he wants his family to be happy. And he is asking me what I think he should do. I say do what is going to make yourself happy, and don't try to please me, your family, and yourself. Because its not possible. Any advice or suggestions???
