Tortured Daughters-In-Law

Yes ladies.
I did it.

I was thinking to end this grudge, coldness and strange emotions during christmas season.

I sent white roses for peace to my MIL's house for both FIL and MIL.
I wrote in it NO APPOLOGISE for your information, becasue i had NO MISTAKE of telling them to 'leave us alone to make our new home'.

But what i wrote was 'you should come and see our place'. And also 'if i don't see you before christmas, wish you happy new year'.

she called same evening. I was happy. she sounded so good on the phone. I felt guilty about how i had thought of her. But since I have learnt my lessons, i think best is keep the distance, and just not keep grudges also make MY OWN RULES AND REGULATIONS.

Husband was happy. But he knows and told him that 'don't get excited that things will be like before licking your parent's a**'. I am NOT going to her house, I am just going on with my life with you, and she can come and see the place. Other than that, no more little routines of meeting up. We meet when we meet.

I am sure she knows how i DEEPLY feel about her, since i've told her mistakes to her face in my letter. Let's hope she does not forget... let you know more later future!

Zuskak

well, that worked out. I wonder if she will come visit.

NO NO.
don't think i want her visits and cuddles up...

she is proud woman.
i am proud woman.

so at least we have no grudges. she can come and see. anwyay, the house is horrible state, no tiles on the floor, everything mad.
i just learnt to keep my mouth shut if she says anything.

but at least we have distance. and no, i will not start phonning and licking her bum as before!

end of it!!! let her feel guilty. i am sure she knows her mistakes from her other daughter in law too. she and her family don't wana talk to her now! her loss, she only gets along with men, and men are not as talkative and sensitive!

zuskak

HI there again
As i explained in a wrong site, (thanks Isabel),

The flowers were not that worth doing it.
I am happy mother in law called and was kind to me.

But the last minute of my father in law's pop into the new house to see how my husband is doing the job (as builder) and me helping him with the paints, - father in law didn't look at me at all. was looking up the stairs and calling him.

Don't you think he should have been mature enought to have thanked or at least some kind of communication? May be i am thinking too much.

I am not that worried about it, more than my future plans if they end up being my kids grandparents. How will I cope with this misery man... and misery woman...!

Help... have you had similar situation?

I think it is rude to enter someones home and  not observe the niceties of saying hello how are you to the hostess of the home.

He never takes it that way...
he has even told us once by being in this flat 'i have the key, i can come anytime i want'. but at least he's been respectful and hasn't come.

In the situaiton of this house, we are not living in it yet. My husband as a builder is working on the house and the enterence doors are half open. builders come, go, and i was doing the wall painting upstairs.

i was just to get the 3 ladder stairs to go upstairs and continiou, he suddenly entered and then he didn't say NOTHING. He kept looking the stairs knowing my husband was upstairs, and just asked business questions. I think he wasn't expecting me there. but i was as if a ghost in my own house!!

in the future he won't have any key anyway! let alone enter just like that? in his slightest dreams!

i don't care anymore. my husband was embaressed as well how he treated. at least i showed and prooved him i have the heart to send them the flowers. at least a respect to my husband. The end of the day he is almost 70 year old man, and i feel sorry for him more than anger.

it is the wife that is the evil. i wonder what bad things she said about me that even her husband isn't looking at me. He knows that deep down i do love him, although the letter was bad,- to say stop bossing us - but anwyay, in life we always meet strangers, but we end up liking them. In family situation, we meet close families, and end up strangers.. a twisted life...

Zuskak

Zusak, I like the way you put that: in life we meet strangers who we end up liking them, and in our families, we end up as strangers.  Unfortunately, that can be so true.