after such a long time of anger and bull, there was a lot that everyone in the family had to ditch. i had to drop the abuse over who my friends are and they had to drop all the issues over the wedding.
saw then early feb, at a party but didnt sit with them. i was still upset over sils bull.
but we randomly decided to go there the other night. i realised how much the wedding stress me out, everything they did, not only upset me but got me worrying they would be arse at the wedding.
now all the shit they do doesnt bother me...i noticed it tho...we got there and everyone but us were invited to dinner...hubby made a deal out of that...and seems rather cut considering we got introuble for inviting one couple over...not the whole family except one couple.
sil was trying to play perfect families which calmed down when she realised no one was paying attention to her..so she just started to scream....they also asked everyone personally if they wanted a drink and i got asked after a long delay, like she forgot i was sitting next to her...
i played games with bils gfs baby...so i didnt react to any of it, which was great.
i kept playing over in my head im hear for hubby, so its not worth getting upset over things,
i felt a lot more confident, i know we will always be excluded and never be part of the family and i know everything i do will be wrong, but i hardly sed much , i just played with the baby,
but knowing my lick there shitty cos the kid came to me over them...i hadnt seen the kid for months and they see it weekly....

theres my ramble...i will keep making educated steps hoping peace continues for hubby and i, but life for them is never peaceful.

It sounds like you have found a place of a bit more peace, even considering what arses they are! Good for you!  That's probably the place we ALL need to get to, which is learning to let it go. It's harder some days than others, I think, but sounds like you did a great job holding it together!

yes, it would be nice for it to be like this all the time...but we'll see. i have dropped all my expectations and wants from the family...

realised the only reason we're out of the shit is cos its all focused at the other bil. suits me perfectly. im loving it. been visitin sil and her step daughter and that has helped the cause.
today went to mils where sil and bil were meeting up-
they make out to me like things are perfect but they fought the whole time - most of it stemming from the attention bein paid to their step children. so atm we're out of it, nothing to compete with them so its great.
i did have mil very rudely ask me why im friends with a person on my facebook page who is the sister of sils x bf. and then made a big deal about watch out who u talk to about sil and our family...mil always makes out that i run to ppl to stir shit.
thats me vent

That's why I don't use my real name online and I NEVER tell anyone outside my circle of friends what sites I'm on or what my id is!  Maybe get a new account with a different name and then invite your friends all over again. Just be careful not to use a picture of your actual face!

oh its done now, and i confidently answered the question, so thats life. but i have noticed recently sil getting her mum to have go's at me- its not like she doesnt have gos at everyone, but there must be something with me.